Friends with benefits can often lead to sticky situations and miscommunication. What can turn into one, two or three blissful nights of fun can result in heartbreak. While receiving those late-night phone calls can seem thrilling, dabbling in emotions can be risky. But can we carry out friends with benefits without getting our feelings double-crossed? Or are we on a dangerous road to unrequited affection and potentially falling in love?
Sometimes being single can be monotonous. We've protected our peace for too long, had multiple Saturday nights in and can't remember the last time we well, did it. Calling up an old flame or friend can make it easy to get back into the game. But the line between spending time together, going on dates and constant texting can make your relationship confusing. Often, we can take advantage of people, especially in situations such as friends with benefits. They can become a one-way relationship and are not necessarily beneficial to both parties. To balance this see-saw set of highs and lows, we should prepare ourselves to use heavy communication, emotional maturity and bluntness of knowing what we want.
But friends with benefits can be puzzling when knowing the boundaries and limits we set ourselves in relationships. How long into an evening can a friend with benefits stay until politeness turns into discomfort? How often are texts exchanges allowed to take place, and if they're allowed to sleep with other people? Rules and regulations can become a mind-boggling task to unload, and we can confuse intimacy for affection.
So what are the long term and short term effects of friends with benefits? Friends with benefits can be a quick solution to reaping loneliness and curing the space in your bed. Sex can make us feel desired and satisfy our sexual appetite. Being single can often make our sex life hit a peak and trough with its inconsistencies.
The bleak long term effects of friends with benefits are that we can mistake intimacy for affection and become lost in Fogarty sheets, making it confusing when clouded in lust. Overnight stays can turn into slow mornings of eggs and coffee, and suddenly, we are the ones turning a blind eye. Poor communication and a lack of trust in a sexual partner; can all be pre-requisites for a broken heart. We can end up feeling used, unremarkable and disappointed because you didn't see eye to eye.
So how do we tackle this imbalance of casual sex? Should we be celebrated because we had casual sex and didn't develop feelings? Or should we take heed in matters of the heart which can take precedence over our personal lives? Overall, we should have sex on our terms, when we want it and who we invite to join us. In doing what works best for you, despite societys' judgement, we can have a clear grasp of what is correct for us, especially regarding our relationship status. There is no definitive answer to whether friends with benefits can really work for us or simply seek a course of misery. But either way, all experiences are valuable to us, to make us wiser for the next one.
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