'The female orgasm', with a sometimes daunting and challenging reputation, can be difficult to discuss and conquer. When there are dozens of pathways to explore sex, it can be overwhelming to understand our sexual partner's needs and wants. It is possible to obsess and desire astounding end goals- aka orgasms. But what do orgasms mean for women? What types are there? And most importantly, how do we achieve more of them?
First and foremost, it is vital to understand that everyone's sexual anatomy is a little different, and so is every woman's body when experiencing pleasure. The following list of orgasms includes clitoral, vaginal, G-spot, and blended (caused by multiple orgasms of two or more!) There are also exercise-induced orgasms based around weight training and cardio and potentially orgasms during sleep. Every woman is unique in their sexual DNA and in what makes her tick in the bedroom. There isn't any limit to erogenous zones and other points of stimulation (e.g. nipples and anus) to commit to when exploring our partner.
So what are the after-effects of orgasms for men and women? Scientifically speaking, all sexes experience increased heart rate, higher blood pressure, tensed muscles and the release of the love chemical oxytocin. And as we know already, they can come with many shakes and involuntary convulsions. The unique part about women is that our orgasms can be complex but often laster longing and come with the ability to receive multiple of them.
But what of the current statistics regarding women and orgasms? Currently, only 3 out of 10 British women say that they orgasm every time during sex, and only 11% of those receive multiple climaxes in one session. On the other hand, men and gay men orgasm 85% of the time during their sexual experiences.
When communicating with our partner, we should discuss likes, dislikes, fantasies, limitations, masturbation and everything else in between when discussing the bedroom. When getting to know our partners sexually, we should have intimate conversations and be open-minded to trying new things. Most importantly, orgasms should be a by-product of great sex instead of having sex to achieve an orgasm.
Exploring our partner and ourselves should be an exciting and fulfilling experience for both parties instead of singularly just thinking about achieving orgasms. While orgasms may be the main event for some people and can deepen our emotional connection with our partner, it does not have to become the end goal. And with the global sex toys market forever on the rise, hook-up culture and porn at the ready, there are no signs of us slowing down and possibly experiencing those all-important orgasms which make us tick.
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